Signs of low self-esteem

It’s essential for parents and professionals to be attuned to signs that children or young people may be struggling with self-esteem. Recognising these signs early can facilitate timely support. Here are some common indicators to look out for:

• Negative Self-Talk: The child or young person consistently says negative things about themselves, expresses self-doubt, or engages in self-criticism e.g. ‘ I can’t…. I wont….. I hate….’
• Negative Comments about Appearance: Expressing dissatisfaction or making negative comments about their physical appearance could indicate feelings of inadequacy or a negative self-image.
• Negative Comments about Achievements: Making negative comments about their achievements, especially at school or in activities, might suggest a lack of confidence in their abilities.
• Comparisons to Others: Constantly comparing themselves negatively to peers or others may indicate a struggle with self-worth and confidence.
• Withdrawal from Activities: Avoiding situations and activities they once enjoyed may signify a desire to distance themselves due to feelings of inadequacy or discomfort.
• Low Mood or Interest: A noticeable decrease in mood or interest in previously enjoyable activities may be a sign of internal emotional distress.
• Avoidance of New Experiences: Reluctance to try new things or excessive worry about facing unfamiliar situations may indicate a fear of failure or a lack of confidence.
• Anxiety about Mistakes: Excessive anxiety or an inability to move on from mistakes may suggest a fear of judgment or perfectionistic tendencies affecting their self-esteem.
• Self-Criticism when Plans Go Awry: Being overly harsh on themselves when things don’t go as planned may indicate a struggle with resilience and self-compassion.
• Engaging in Self-Harming Behaviours: Turning to self-harm or other harmful coping mechanisms is a serious sign of emotional distress and a strong indicator that professional help may be needed.

If you observe these signs in a child or young person, it’s crucial to create an open and supportive environment for communication. Seek professional guidance, such as from a counsellor or mental health professional, to address and support their emotional well-being. Early support can play a vital role in fostering healthy self-esteem and emotional resilience.